Come on, Jamie! Let’s be practical here.

But, I don’t understand. What is wrong with just being here and experiencing what is and letting things unfold?

What does practical even mean to me? Well, it means the same thing as having a plan. If we do this or decide that, then that’s where we are heading with the idea that we will get a certain result or outcome.

I used to live my life like that. I used to believe that, if I worked hard and stuck to my strategies and plan,  everything would work out. That assurance made me feel safe and certain in my circumstances.

I used to bring this into my relationships. I would look to the future and make plans about what we would do and how our life would look together. This gave me a sense of security and safety. Furthermore, if I knew we had a future, I would then feel I could love that person  knowing we would always be together because our future plans were in sync.

Being practical in these two areas of my life actually brought me no everlasting safety, security, certainty, or love. Those things would be experienced only temporarily. For that brief moment, when the circumstances were going according to my practical plan, I thought that was where I got all those feelings. My attention was on what I was getting from those areas of my life in order to feel complete and whole. I then had expectations about how I wanted my life to show up, how I wanted someone else to show up, all so I felt secure, safe and loved.

So I started to accept myself for simply being here. Being okay with where I am right now in this moment and being totally open to what would unfold next. Accepting what would show up, without needing to change it or control it.

Someone once said to me, “Love is not practical!”

How can it be? Love’s essence is  found only in this moment.

Love does not plan or look for anything outside of this moment. It is already complete and whole.

Love is that alive feeling that is always moving and changing. That is who I am. So, I chose to show up in that space, open to the love that I already am.

This means letting go of needing to know or being practical. I’d much rather trust in the plan that is unfolding through me as I show up in this moment than look to trust in something that isn’t even real or hasn’t happened yet.

The interesting thing was, I noticed this gave space for that which I love to come into form without me getting in the way, thinking about the most practical way life should be or how it will unfold. We think this way because of our own attachments, needs, and agendas. Instead I practiced in being totally open to the possibilities and the how would work itself out.

This may be a crazy way to live, at first. But, sooner or later, you will realize it was crazy to live any other way!

Know someone that is usually really stressed out about their plan going right or being practical? Send them this article and I’d also love to hear your comments below.

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